Excuses Exist To Make You Feel Good

Our brain is an amazing arena full of exciting and often driving us crazy performances. To go to the gym or no to go, to go out with friend or stay at home, to watch Big Brother or study for the exam… Those dilemmas are in fact most of the time are not difficult choices but soil for more excuses. Choosing not to go to the gym or go out with friend or watch telly is simply easier. Therefore we often fall for our weaknesses. BUT it does not happen if we WANT to go to the gym, WANT to stay at home, WANT to study etc etc etc… Some people though manage to try and persuade the word that they WANT but simply CANNOT. Well, the world does not care. You simply don’t want it so step aside and do something you want.

Annablogia: I cannot

The other day I bumped into this absolutely awesome blog  where I found “Do you have an excuse, or a reason?” article which is very simple and down to Earth work on how we love making excuses and need to listen to ourselves better. I hate copying stuff but the article NEEDS to re-blog the work as I am totally in love with it, and I must say happens rarely to me. So here it goes 🙂

All our research into brains has shown us that people tend to decide what to do with their emotions first and make up the reasons why afterwards. If you’re afraid of something, your subconscious can always whip up a plausible excuse: it’s too hard; you don’t have the experience; there’s a re-run of Celebrity Big Brother on tonight.

Have you ever argued with someone who would never change their mind, even when all facts were against them? They’re not using logic to find answers, they’re using logic to justify the answer they already have. Our brains do that hundreds of times a day.

Understand this: excuses exist to make you feel better. They can fool others. They can dodge blame. They can even become a badge of honour (“if only it wasn’t for my back / wife / addiction to Jerry Springer”). But excuses exist only to numb your pain. They never help you get shit done.

You ask how to know if you’re making excuses or have a real reason not to try being an entrepreneur. Here’s a handy rule of thumb: I want something – all excuses now invalid! 

Annablogia: Brain loves excuses

So firstly ask yourself – do you really want this? I mean, I ‘want’ a perfect body, but I’m not willing to put in 6 hours a day for the next year to get there. If you’re not willing to make appropriate sacrifices for something, you don’t want it badly enough. That’s ok. Accept it and find another calling.

If you do want something, your mission is to plough through any excuses. They should be but a frail leaf in the path of a barrelling freight train.

Here’s one trick – everytime you hear an excuse, reply to it with “yes – and?”:

“It is very difficult.” Yes, and?
“I am too young or too old to go for it.” Yes, and?
“I don’t know how.” Yes, and?

The point is: an excuse is not enough. Any fool can invent a thousand excuses for anything. Many do.

COMMON EXCUSES:

1. It is very difficult
So is anything worthwhile. They don’t make statues for the lazy.

2. I am too young or too old to go for it
Alex Tew made a million dollars when he was 21 and a student. Colonel Sanders started KFC aged 65. Tell me, when does the world allow you to become an entrepreneur, exactly? You don’t need permission.

3. Nobody takes me seriously or I have been rejected
The Beatles were rejected because “guitar groups are on the way out”. Michael Jordan didn’t make his high school basketball team. 12 different publishers turned down Harry Potter. Everyone meets rejection on the road to success.

4. I am not that much educated
Richard Branson is dyslexic and had poor grades. Steve Jobs dropped out of college. Most PhD’s aren’t entrepreneurs.

5. I don’t know how
No-one is born with knowledge of how to do anything. You faced the same problem with walking, talking, writing and typing. Yet here you are, connected to the sum of all human knowledge, online, for free. Use it.

6. I don’t have time
We all have the same 24 hours in the day. Give something else up, get smarter with your time, sleep less or find a way to need less time to start.

7. He/she is responsible for my failure
No they’re not. As long as you assign blame to someone else you’re refusing to take responsibility for what you can do about it. Try taking one small habit to change your life.

8. It is very risky
Driving requires you move at life-threatening speed inside a metal container propelled by the continuous ignition of an explosive petrochemical, surrounded by thousands of others – some of whom are drunk – doing the same. Cars can crash. Businesses can fail. You take sensible precautions – like wearing seatbelts and reading business books – and then you get on with your life.

9. What if/could/would
I don’t know what this means.

10. The idea is not perfect or might not work
Most business ideas are crap. Successful people make terrible decisions all the time. It doesn’t matter because they get back up and try something else. You don’t need to roll a double six first time – just keep playing the game.

This stuff can look scary from the outset. But I promise you, if you’re willing to look into it, you’ll find more books, options and people willing to help you on your journey than at any point in history. You’re immeasurably blessed already.

Author: Oliver Emberton

I find this topic highly curious partly because it can be applied to almost any aspect of our lives. I will definitely be getting back to it, adding my insights.

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